What if He Doesn't Call?

Ever wonder why the man you're dating and having an amazing time with doesn't call you very often?Or worse... stops calling altogether? If you've ever had this happen to you with a man, then you know how FRUSTRATING it can be when a man just suddenly stops calling for what seems like no good reason...

And you've spent more time than you'd like to admit wondering what happened and what YOU might have done wrong. Most women in this situation fall into a kind of trap that seems to work against them... Instead of recognizing that the man not calling is an important signal in of itself, they become obsessed with wanting to know what he's thinking and WHY he's acting this way.

But most women also know on an intuitive level that coming out and actually asking a man why he's acting this way wouldn't bring about anything good. And guess what? Their intuition is right. With most men in this situation, if you want to connect with a man and grow closer, then the answer is NOT to try and get him to talk about his thoughts and feelings.

It's time you learned what it really means if a man isn't calling... and what to do about it to quickly "turn the tables" in your favor so that he's the one calling and asking you out.


I'll share this with you, but first I want you to read this email I got recently from a reader about this exact kind of situation.


WHY ISN'T HE CALLING MORE?

Here's something you might not have thought about...

Men often communicate and show their feelings in less "direct" ways than simplysaying and expressing how the feel. In fact, most men are a whole lot more conscious of DOING things than they are of how they effect and relate to others on emotional level. So... when a man doesn't call, it's often NOT an indication of something else going on for him that he might want to talk to you about. Often times it's simply an indication that he doesn't actually FEEL like spending more time around you. So he simply doesn't call. In other words, when it comes to men and dating, it's best to look at a man's ACTIONS and BEHAVIOURS as the only TRUE INDICATION of how they really feel inside.

As a woman, you can probably spin your wheels dreaming up all kinds of incredible and elaborate ideas and scenarios for why a man isn't calling and what it means about his feelings and your situation. But, if you're interested in doing more than analyzing and trying to figure out things in your own mind... then it's best to "read" the men you're dating early on by what they DO... and NOT what they SAY. Which means... a man not calling you often, or at all, is an important signal in and of itself.

If a man is spending time with a woman he "likes", but he isn't sure if he would want much more than a few casual dates with her.. then here's what he does...He only calls her every once in a while to keep the "connection" open... making sure not to let the connection die, but also making sure not to spend too much time with a woman or show her too many signs of interest that might indicate he'd want a more serious relationship. And yes, some men actually think this way and are CONSCIOUS about NOT CALLING women very often if they don't want things to get more serious. While other men who don't call are usually doing this inadvertently as they're going about their life and not thinking much about wanting more with a woman.

Here's what you need to take away from all this..
If a man isn't calling and you'd like him to call more and to grow in your relationship together, it really doesn't matter WHY. The only things that matter are if he's not calling because he's not interested in relationship with you ever.
Or...
If he's not calling because he's just not feeling "that way" for you YET. Which begs the question - how do you get a man feeling "that way" for you if he's not feeling it yet?

Well, for starters, you need to STOP doing the things that will promise that a man WON'T feel it for you. Things like CALLING HIM TOO MUCH. Or getting upset and hurt that he hasn't called when there's no "relationship" yet, and it's just YOUR EXPECTATION that he SHOULD call more. Or generally taking on any other needy, clingy, or overly emotional behaviors that will have a man thinking you'd be nothing but a pain if he was to get to know you and involved in a real relationship with you. What you need to do instead is to start to learn the behaviors that create the feeling of ATTRACTION inside a man.

Why attraction?

Because attraction is the one thing that will "override" all the logical reasons a man has for NOT wanting to get involved with a woman or stay single...And will take over his "emotional world" and have him thinking and acting from his EMOTIONS with you... instead of his "logical mind" that will often try to RESIST a woman and a real committed relationship.


It could be when he shows up in a few months or years and says, "I love you, but I'm not IN LOVE with you." Or when he loses his physical interest in you and you know your not "connecting" the way you used to... and you worry he might be thinking about or seeing another woman. The truth is, if you learn how to keep that intense level of attraction ALIVE in your relationship... and you know how to make a man feel attracted to you on a physical, emotional, and "intellectual" level, then your relationship with him will largely take care of itself.

And if you're struggling with the level of sharing and COMMUNICATION you have with the man in your life, or in your past relationships, and you'd like to learn what it really takes to CONNECT with a man on a deeper level than you ever had before... then I've got good news.

There are several SECRETS to communicating with men I've already shared with thousands of other women that have literally TRANSFORMED their lives and their relationship in a matter of days. Wouldn't it be AMAZING if instead of taking the time and effort to share how you feel with a man and have him not really LISTEN or respond...wouldn't it be incredible if you knew how to help a man quickly and easily "get" what you were talking about? Wouldn't it change your life if you knew how to help HIM become a better communicator with you... so that he would be able to better understand you and relate to you?

And wouldn't it be a whole new world if you didn't have to have all the arguments and misunderstandings with a man that come from both of you not being able to really HEAR what the other one was saying? It really is possible to have the kind of "connection" with a man where he seems to "get" what you're saying and where you're coming from before you even finish what you're saying. You know that this is possible because you have this with some of your friends.

Well, it is possible between you and a man. But only if you're willing to take the time to look at what's going on at a deeper level when men and women are communicating... and only if you are ready to be the one to start the process of change in the way you and a man talk to each other. One of my favorite quotes that has stuck with me over the years is... "Let change begin with me."

Are you ready to live the life and the relationship you know is possible by learning to master the single most important "skill" there is in a loving and lasting relationship?

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